As long as I can remember I’ve been interested in fashion. Even as a teen, I’d save the money I earned from minimum wage afterschool jobs to buy something new to wear. But when I started my career as a funeral director, I realized that my work wardrobe would be neither versatile nor colorful. In fact, it would be mostly black. Now that may sound like chic personified, but it was not. Stylish black suits were not easy to find and believe me I searched. I wanted to look young and certainly not dowdy, At the same time, I wanted to be properly dressed for the work I did.
When most people think of fashion, images of colorful outfits, vibrant patterns, and trendy accessories might spring to mind. However, for those of us in funeral service, fashion tells a different story. The attire of a female funeral director often revolves around black suits and white blouses, embodying both professionalism and respect for the families we serve. It took some time –and lots of trial and error—but I learned to navigate the unique fashion landscape required of my professional life. My wardrobe evolved throughout the years, and I continue to express my personal style within the subtle confines of my vocation.
The Search for Chic Black Attire
Stepping into a career as a funeral director meant stepping into a world where colors faded, and black became the staple. As someone who has always cherished fashion, the transition to this monochromatic wardrobe was challenging. Here’s a glimpse into that initial experience.
The Challenge of Style
Early on, finding stylish black suits, skirts, and blouses proved to be more difficult than I anticipated. Many options out there seemed to be designed for an older demographic, leaving me feeling frumpy and less than confident. I wanted to look chic and polished, proving that one could be young and professional in such a somber career.
It quickly became clear that versatility was key. My wardrobe needed to transition seamlessly from the arrangement room to the cemetery. Each piece I chose had to balance modern style with a level of conservativeness required by the environment. Oh, how many stores I wandered into, flipping through racks of seemingly endless (and uninspiring unstructured) black!
With each trip to the stores, I began to realize that the focus shouldn’t just be on the color black. Fabrics and cuts became just as significant. I started to look for high-quality materials that felt good to wear, and designs that brought a little flair to the dark palette. Tailored blazers with a nipped waist, structured trousers, and fashion-forward skirts started to populate my closet—each piece now telling a story of elegance mixed with professionalism.
In this fabulous outfit, Elle Woods could easily pass for a funeral director — a very stylish one at that.
Expanding the Palette
As time went on, the strict style rules surrounding funeral attire began to soften, allowing me to slowly add shades like charcoal gray and navy blue to my collection. It was a far cry from the time I showed up to work in a navy-blue suit, and my boss sent me home to change. Black was the order of the day and there were no deviations at my first job. Being able to incorporate grey and blue tones offered a breath of fresh air while still maintaining the respectful essence of my work.
In addition to the new suits, I began to add pastel-colored blouses in light blue, pale pink, cream –and even simple prints– to pair with them. Adding new colors meant I could express myself just a little more and it also helped to break up the monotony. What’s more, the new colors and shades opened up my fashion choices considerably.
This evolution made me excited about dressing every day, providing more combinations that fit my personality while respecting my profession’s solemnity.
The Art of Accessories
Accessorizing is another area where personal style can shine. Statement jewelry, such as a simple brooch or delicate necklace, can add a touch of individuality to a dark suit. It’s these unique touches that make us feel special and stand out.
Great shoes can truly transform an outfit. Given the significant time we spend on our feet, it’s essential to prioritize comfort. I’ve personally found that kitten or block heels, with their comfort and style, are the best choice for long days.
And let’s not overlook the importance of a stylish and roomy handbag. It’s a practical and fashionable accessory that adds a pop of color to an otherwise muted palette, breathing life into any outfit.
Finding Balance in Fashion and Function
Dressing as a female funeral director in dark suits and light blouses isn’t just about fitting into a mold; it’s about creating an identity that respects the gravity of the profession while embracing personal style. Over the years, I’ve learned to navigate this nuanced fashion world creatively and thoughtfully. By expanding my color palette, finding versatile pieces, and mastering the art of accessorizing, I’ve discovered that professionalism doesn’t have to mean a lack of style.
In a field often viewed through a somber lens, I like challenging perceptions and expressing a bit of individuality. After all, fashion is a form of expression and can exist beautifully even in the most unexpected of environments.
If there’s one thing I hope you take away, it’s this: your style doesn’t disappear just because the rules are strict. It adapts. It evolves. And it can still shine.
So go ahead—find the pieces that make you feel like you, even on the most structured days. Add the blouse that lifts your mood, the shoes that carry you confidently, the accessory that whispers your personality.
.So to our fellow funeral directors—and anyone navigating a career with strict dress codes—remember this: style is not frivolous. It’s a language. It communicates respect, confidence, and individuality all at once. And yes, even in black, fashion can be chic, expressive, and deeply human.
The Morte Girls 
One response to “Dressing as a Female Funeral Director: Finding Style”
I personally was allowed and love to use these Polish dresses. They look like they are from the 1930s, almost frumpy, but they have pockets and let me move my legs more than pants. I can layer thick leggings below them and they have pockets. I say to forget fashion, go for function!
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